Narcissism – The ultimate guide

What is Narcissism?

A pattern of traits and behaviors which signify infatuation and
obsession with one’s self to the exclusion of all others and the
egotistic and ruthless pursuit of one’s gratification, dominance and
ambition.

Most narcissists (75%) are men.

NPD is one of a “family” of personality disorders (formerly known as “Cluster B”).

Other members: Borderline PD, Antisocial PD and Histrionic PD.

NPD is often diagnosed with other mental health disorders
(“co-morbidity”) – or with substance abuse, or impulsive and reckless
behaviors (“dual diagnosis”).

NPD is new (1980) mental health category in the Diagnostic and Statistics Manual (DSM).

There is only scant research regarding narcissism. But what there is
has not demonstrated any ethnic, social, cultural, economic, genetic, or
professional predilection to NPD.

It is estimated that 0.7-1% of the general population suffer from NPD.

Pathological narcissism was first described in detail by Freud. Other
major contributors are: Klein, Horney, Kohut, Kernberg, Millon,
Roningstam, Gunderson, Hare.

The
onset of narcissism is in infancy, childhood and early adolescence. It
is commonly attributed to childhood abuse and trauma inflicted by
parents, authority figures, or even peers.

There is a whole range of narcissistic reactions – from the mild, reactive and transient to the permanent personality disorder.

Narcissists are either “Cerebral” (derive their narcissistic supply
from their intelligence or academic achievements) – or “Somatic” (derive
their narcissistic supply from their physique, exercise, physical or
sexual prowess and “conquests”).

Narcissists are either “Classic” – see definition below – or they are “Compensatory”, or “Inverted” – see definitions here: “The Inverted Narcissist“.

NPD is treated in talk therapy (psychodynamic or
cognitive-behavioral). The prognosis for an adult narcissist is poor,
though his adaptation to life and to others can improve with treatment.
Medication is applied to side-effects and behaviors (such as mood or
affect disorders and obsession-compulsion) – usually with some success.

Please read CAREFULLY!

The text in italics is NOT based on the Diagnostics and Statistics Manual, Fourth Edition-Text Revision (2000).

The text in italics IS based on “Malignant Self Love – Narcissism Revisited”, fourth, revised, printing (2003)

An all-pervasive pattern of grandiosity (in fantasy or behaviour), need for admiration or adulation and lack of empathy, usually beginning by early adulthood and present in various contexts. Five (or more) of the following criteria must be met:

• Feels grandiose and self-important (e.g., exaggerates achievements and talents to the point of lying, demands to be recognized as superior without commensurate achievements)
• Is obsessed with fantasies of unlimited success, fame, fearsome power or omnipotence, unequalled brilliance (the cerebral narcissist), bodily beauty or sexual performance (the somatic narcissist), or ideal, everlasting, all-conquering love or passion
• Firmly convinced that he or she is unique and, being special, can only be understood by, should only be treated by, or associate with, other special or unique, or high-status people (or institutions)
• Requires excessive admiration, adulation, attention and affirmation – or, failing that, wishes to be feared and to be notorious (narcissistic supply)
• Feels entitled. Expects unreasonable or special and favorable priority treatment. Demands automatic and full compliance with his or her expectations
• Is “interpersonally exploitative”, i.e., uses others to achieve his or her own ends
• Devoid of empathy. Is unable or unwilling to identify with or acknowledge the feelings and needs of others
• Constantly envious of others or believes that they feel the same about him or her
• Arrogant, haughty behaviours or attitudes coupled with rage when frustrated, contradicted, or confronted

Some of the language in the criteria above is based on or summarized from:

American Psychiatric Association. (2000). Diagnostic and statistical manual of mental disorders, fourth edition, Text Revision (DSM IV-TR). Washington, DC: American Psychiatric Association.

The text in italics is based on:

Sam Vaknin. (2003). Malignant Self Love – Narcissism Revisited, fourth, revised, printing. Prague and Skopje: Narcissus Publication.